Monday, March 4, 2013
Monday, November 19, 2012
where to go from here
Well , I went down to my local library today to see about a book on bullying, to my surprise at this branch, there was only one. It was not what you would call informative but it was about bullying none the less. It was in story form I guess that counts for something. I did ask to see if there was a section and there really wasn't one. The lady that helped me stated the the network was down so she could not really tell what they had. She suggested I try back tomorrow and then maybe she could tell me what there was
I am starting to see a big issue, I was thinking about the campaign on drugs back in the eighties the "just say no" bit. Then there was the onslaught of domestic violence and then homlessness and now animal cruelty all good causes ,great causes.Not much interest to the kid going to bed knowing his/her life will be the same scary place it was yesterday .I guess thats where I am going with this to end the fear of leaving ones house. I think that's a horrible way to exist to be so consumed by fear that nothing else matters.
One of my goals is to put light on this through media and visual assitance such as signs in schools on buses in malls and the like. I think its important to let people know that this is a concern that somebody cares anybody not just me. I think that would help for a kid to know hey someone knows someone cares I will be heard . It's like a police investagation if you will, they go to the media to see if anyone else has seen this person or has this happened to anyone else, and it does not take much to get a gathering of people. strength in numbers as they say , because if you think about it as adults, at least for me, would you go to talk to someone who you feel would not listen ? probably not, now put that in perspective of a kid being bullied and feeling no one would help .
Getting closer to that mission statement ,going to go to legalzoom shortly to get my non-profit staus then things will kick in high gear .Can not share any plans asi dont really have any to speak of but will share as they come along .
Toodles.........
I am starting to see a big issue, I was thinking about the campaign on drugs back in the eighties the "just say no" bit. Then there was the onslaught of domestic violence and then homlessness and now animal cruelty all good causes ,great causes.Not much interest to the kid going to bed knowing his/her life will be the same scary place it was yesterday .I guess thats where I am going with this to end the fear of leaving ones house. I think that's a horrible way to exist to be so consumed by fear that nothing else matters.
One of my goals is to put light on this through media and visual assitance such as signs in schools on buses in malls and the like. I think its important to let people know that this is a concern that somebody cares anybody not just me. I think that would help for a kid to know hey someone knows someone cares I will be heard . It's like a police investagation if you will, they go to the media to see if anyone else has seen this person or has this happened to anyone else, and it does not take much to get a gathering of people. strength in numbers as they say , because if you think about it as adults, at least for me, would you go to talk to someone who you feel would not listen ? probably not, now put that in perspective of a kid being bullied and feeling no one would help .
Getting closer to that mission statement ,going to go to legalzoom shortly to get my non-profit staus then things will kick in high gear .Can not share any plans asi dont really have any to speak of but will share as they come along .
Toodles.........
Sunday, November 18, 2012
scary thought
So, here we are again , still doing research and mulling over a mission staement . I think I may have one. More on that later.
The research was interesting I went to my sons school website to see what information they had, remarkably after 20 minutes I found it, it was the same useless rhetoric, it was actually a copy of what I was handed in their office . I got to thinking about that and I cosidered looking into what premptive things are being done I think thats where I might go with this (I am just starting out so I am still coming up with ideas )
When I was at the store the other day I noticed a man coming in with small children, school age the oldest looked about 8 or 9 (you have to be careful approaching parents ) I got his attention and I
asked if he ever thought about bullying and he siad "kind of " then I asked him if, his children were involved in bullying what would he do. He shrugged and said "go to the school ?" I thanked hm and left .On the way home I thought, thats scary. He had no idea what he would do and he assumed I meant if his children were bullied not if his children were bullies . I got to thinking about that and I am going to check it out, what are the schools doing to provide preemptive information to students and parents. Along with the information you get after the fact I think it would be useful to get information before the fact
I am thinking about signs to be put up in schools and malls, not so much like cute signs like hang in there baby, but awareness signs with facts and such.
Well off to do more research and work on that pesky mission statement .
Toodles........
The research was interesting I went to my sons school website to see what information they had, remarkably after 20 minutes I found it, it was the same useless rhetoric, it was actually a copy of what I was handed in their office . I got to thinking about that and I cosidered looking into what premptive things are being done I think thats where I might go with this (I am just starting out so I am still coming up with ideas )
When I was at the store the other day I noticed a man coming in with small children, school age the oldest looked about 8 or 9 (you have to be careful approaching parents ) I got his attention and I
asked if he ever thought about bullying and he siad "kind of " then I asked him if, his children were involved in bullying what would he do. He shrugged and said "go to the school ?" I thanked hm and left .On the way home I thought, thats scary. He had no idea what he would do and he assumed I meant if his children were bullied not if his children were bullies . I got to thinking about that and I am going to check it out, what are the schools doing to provide preemptive information to students and parents. Along with the information you get after the fact I think it would be useful to get information before the fact
I am thinking about signs to be put up in schools and malls, not so much like cute signs like hang in there baby, but awareness signs with facts and such.
Well off to do more research and work on that pesky mission statement .
Toodles........
Friday, November 16, 2012
It amazes me that people are so uninterested with the subject of bullying I started this subject on my facebook page. I dont know what kind of reaction I was expecting but I didn't expect to not have any reaction at all . I really had 2 likes both from friends but one missed the point completely. L am really sad about this because I know most of the people on my page have children . I dont get it.
anyways......
I am doing research now to see whats out there on bullying to get a grasp if I am heading in a good direction. I was in my sons school yesterday and was given a pamphlet on bullying it was recomended by a staffmember of the school. Sadly it was the same kumbya rhetoric I've heard before. I did find a book online at amazon called bully I was actually looking for the movie I found one but not sure if it is the one I want I'll check back to see later. The book seems to be another how to for parents it does give a preview and it looka profound I am going to order it and go from there still working out the mission staement and I need to do the f/b page lots to do
till tomorrow
toodles..........
anyways......
I am doing research now to see whats out there on bullying to get a grasp if I am heading in a good direction. I was in my sons school yesterday and was given a pamphlet on bullying it was recomended by a staffmember of the school. Sadly it was the same kumbya rhetoric I've heard before. I did find a book online at amazon called bully I was actually looking for the movie I found one but not sure if it is the one I want I'll check back to see later. The book seems to be another how to for parents it does give a preview and it looka profound I am going to order it and go from there still working out the mission staement and I need to do the f/b page lots to do
till tomorrow
toodles..........
sorry folks I see a couple of people have stopped by. still working on a mission statement. the name of us will be B.A.R.K bullies are reachable kids .set up on twitter and working on face book. heres some of what i wrote on my f/b page we have since talked with school. so for now things are ok but going to continue with this as i feel it is important
Well I think I have finally found a use for this nonsense they call social media. Bullying, Now I know it's a buzz word, and people stop to look, like ya do when you see a fight or an accident. As you cruise by you shake your head and say to yourself glad its not me, then off you go busy with your day. But bullying is more than a word it is an action, a specific action. Taken by one to do HARM to another. No one has a reason for bullying, therapists, police, courts, all agree its bad. But no one knows how to stop it. Seriously, if I see one more celebrity or sports figure, im gonna scream.
The reason for this rant, is my son has been and is being bullied. He defended himself the other day and was suspended for ten days. I am dealing with the school on that and will update here when I get home, but I digress. I have given this some thought per a discussion I had with the principal at my sons school. He said my son put his hands on this bully and thats against school policy. and this stuck with me after I hung up with the principal. I didnt comment on it at the time, but heres the thing, the IMPORTANT thing. bullies start out with mind games calling names, putting others down, faking people out, If you look in Webster's Dictionary it says under bullying "A person who hurts or browbeats those who are weaker" . And I think it is high time, we make that an issue. Because I think that its is not fair for a bully to instigate a violent act knowing the outcome and causing an issue. Then conveniently not be held responsible for that act. I know its the ole he started it routine, but i think this has been a loop hole if you will, for bullies, and it needs to be plugged.
Now I am going to go offtrack for a minute, during the events of yesterday the 13th of Nov I had called the police to make out a report because the school let my son leave the school, he missed the bus and the school would not provide transportation ,he had to walk home 3 miles. I wanted to file a report and the police said they wouldn't because it is school business and no concern to the police (im going long on this so follow me it will get clear) I have to go back a bit to New York. My son was bullied there as well , I called the police then to (I will get into that another time I promise) the policemen said to me, "children have no rights like adults". If one child hits another its up to the parents to straighen it out. I think the same thing is happening here, this bully who is targeting my son knows no harm will come to him. The school will do what it will do and on goes life. I thnk in this day, we have to be stronger than that. Involve the police make it illeagal to harrass, give kids the right to restraining orders like adults have. The schools will not help and the police will not help. This officer that I spoke with yesterday, actually said to me, and I qoute "we dont step on their toes and they dont step on ours" end qoute. I think it is time we involve actual police in these matters. Now I dont mean every little thing ,there has to be protocol, a series of events to prove harm, be it physical or mental. Maybe that will stop it or at least slow it down some .
If you have gotten this far thank you for reading. If you want to help let me know or if you want to share please do.
Well I think I have finally found a use for this nonsense they call social media. Bullying, Now I know it's a buzz word, and people stop to look, like ya do when you see a fight or an accident. As you cruise by you shake your head and say to yourself glad its not me, then off you go busy with your day. But bullying is more than a word it is an action, a specific action. Taken by one to do HARM to another. No one has a reason for bullying, therapists, police, courts, all agree its bad. But no one knows how to stop it. Seriously, if I see one more celebrity or sports figure, im gonna scream.
The reason for this rant, is my son has been and is being bullied. He defended himself the other day and was suspended for ten days. I am dealing with the school on that and will update here when I get home, but I digress. I have given this some thought per a discussion I had with the principal at my sons school. He said my son put his hands on this bully and thats against school policy. and this stuck with me after I hung up with the principal. I didnt comment on it at the time, but heres the thing, the IMPORTANT thing. bullies start out with mind games calling names, putting others down, faking people out, If you look in Webster's Dictionary it says under bullying "A person who hurts or browbeats those who are weaker" . And I think it is high time, we make that an issue. Because I think that its is not fair for a bully to instigate a violent act knowing the outcome and causing an issue. Then conveniently not be held responsible for that act. I know its the ole he started it routine, but i think this has been a loop hole if you will, for bullies, and it needs to be plugged.
Now I am going to go offtrack for a minute, during the events of yesterday the 13th of Nov I had called the police to make out a report because the school let my son leave the school, he missed the bus and the school would not provide transportation ,he had to walk home 3 miles. I wanted to file a report and the police said they wouldn't because it is school business and no concern to the police (im going long on this so follow me it will get clear) I have to go back a bit to New York. My son was bullied there as well , I called the police then to (I will get into that another time I promise) the policemen said to me, "children have no rights like adults". If one child hits another its up to the parents to straighen it out. I think the same thing is happening here, this bully who is targeting my son knows no harm will come to him. The school will do what it will do and on goes life. I thnk in this day, we have to be stronger than that. Involve the police make it illeagal to harrass, give kids the right to restraining orders like adults have. The schools will not help and the police will not help. This officer that I spoke with yesterday, actually said to me, and I qoute "we dont step on their toes and they dont step on ours" end qoute. I think it is time we involve actual police in these matters. Now I dont mean every little thing ,there has to be protocol, a series of events to prove harm, be it physical or mental. Maybe that will stop it or at least slow it down some .
If you have gotten this far thank you for reading. If you want to help let me know or if you want to share please do.
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